Robert Paynter
Experienced counsellor with a practical therapy mix
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About Robert
Robert Paynter is a counsellor who blends practical talking therapy with compassionate support. He has ten years of experience and uses a client-focused mix of approaches to help people facing stress, anxiety, depression and addiction. Robert speaks English, Afrikaans and Portuguese and works with people from many cultures.
He typically combines Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) with person-centred and integrative methods. That means sessions look at thoughts and behaviours while also making space for the person’s experience.
Background and approach
Robert aims to be easy to talk to and to listen carefully before suggesting strategies. Robert helps people manage anger, relationship worries, low self-esteem and career strain. He also supports those dealing with chronic illness, caregiver stress, body image concerns and issues around attachment or abandonment.
The focus is on small, practical steps that a person can try between sessions. His background includes work across several countries and many cultures, which he says helps him relate to a wide range of perspectives. Over his career he has conducted thousands of therapy sessions and refined a structured but flexible way of working.
When someone starts, Robert draws up a plan tailored to their needs and goals. He uses techniques from CBT, acceptance-based approaches and emotion-focused work as appropriate. The aim is steady progress and clearer ways of coping with life changes.
To begin, a person is asked to complete a short matching questionnaire and then arrange sessions according to the therapist’s availability. The subscription model for sessions can be cancelled at any time.
At a glance
- Years practising
- 10
- Registered with
- NCPS
- Registration number
- NCS20-01745
- Languages
- English, Afrikaans, Portuguese
- Approaches include
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Attachment-Based Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy
- How sessions happen
- Online, by video, phone or messages
Details are as listed on Robert's public professional profile. You can check any number with the professional body.
What Robert works with
Everything Robert lists, in their own terms.
- Stress, Anxiety
- Addictions
- LGBT
- Relationship issues
- Depression
- Anger management
- Self esteem
- Career difficulties
- Coping with life changes
- Coaching
- Compassion fatigue
- Abandonment
- Aging and geriatric issues
- Attachment issues
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Body image
- Cancer
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Codependency
- Communication problems
- Control issues
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Drug and alcohol addiction
- Eating and food-related issues
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- First responder issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- HIV / AIDS
- Hoarding
- Immigration issues
- Impulsivity
- Infidelity
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Midlife crisis
- Veteran and Armed Forces Issues
- Money and financial issues
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Narcissism
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Post-traumatic stress
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Self-love
- Sex addiction
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
- Smoking / vaping cessation
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Approaches Robert lists
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centred Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Existential Therapy
- Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
- Jungian Therapy
- Mindfulness Therapy
- Motivational Interviewing
- Narrative Therapy
- Psychodynamic Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Somatic Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
- Systemic Therapy
Listing an approach is not evidence of training in it. This directory copies what each counsellor names and does not check training records.
How Robert works online
Finding the right approach is a collaborative process. The counsellor will discuss your goals and preferences in early sessions and adapt methods to suit you. Together you decide whether to emphasise skills work, emotional processing or values-led action.
The practical advantages of remote work include fitting sessions into a busy week and avoiding travel time. Remote options may also make it easier to check in during a lunch break or to use shorter sessions when life is hectic. Confirm the current session formats before booking so you know which options are available and how they will fit into your routine.
Questions and answers
What kinds of problems does this counsellor help with?
He supports people dealing with stress, anxiety, depression, addiction and relationship concerns. Additional areas include anger, self-esteem, career strain and coping with life changes.
What is his therapeutic style like?
The approach blends Cognitive Behavioural Therapy with person-centred and integrative methods. Sessions are practical, conversational and focused on skills you can use day to day.
What experience does he bring to sessions?
He has ten years of professional experience and has completed several thousand therapy sessions during his career. That experience informs a structured but adaptable way of working.
Where is he based and what are his credentials?
He practises in the United Kingdom and holds the NCPS credential as supplied in his biography.
Which languages are supported in sessions?
Sessions are offered in English, Afrikaans and Portuguese.
Can people outside the UK work with him?
International clients are accepted. Please check practical arrangements before booking to ensure the fit for your location and needs.
How are sessions paid for and what does it cost?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability and sessions use a subscription model that can be cancelled at any time.
How do I begin working with this counsellor?
Select the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire and then schedule sessions according to the therapist’s availability.
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