Gordon Birnie
Practical support for sexual and relationship concerns
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About Gordon
Gordon Birnie helps people facing sexual and relationship concerns, anxiety, depression, and the strain of life changes. He supports those exploring sexuality, LGBT matters, intimacy problems, and issues around sexual function and addiction. Gordon aims to make the first step as straightforward as possible for someone feeling overwhelmed.
He uses a down-to-earth, non-judgemental style that focuses on what the client wants to change. Sessions are conversational and practical. Gordon listens first, then offers ways to try different steps between meetings.
Background and approach
Gordon draws on client-centred therapy to follow the person’s pace and priorities. He also uses Imago relationship ideas to work on communication and connection, and solution-focused techniques to build small achievable goals. These approaches are used to help with stress, low self-esteem, attachment concerns, and sexual issues.
His work includes supporting people with BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture questions, as well as polyamory or non-monogamous relationship dynamics. He also addresses process addictions such as problematic pornography use, gambling, and exercise behaviours, alongside issues of guilt and shame. Gordon trained in the United Kingdom and holds NCPS.
He has three years of clinical experience. Sessions are conducted in English and are offered within the UK. To begin, clients follow the site process to match and schedule their first meeting.
At a glance
- Years practising
- 3
- Registered with
- NCPS
- Registration number
- NCS21-00365
- Languages
- English
- Approaches include
- Client-Centered Therapy, Imago Relationship Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy
- How sessions happen
- Online, by video, phone or messages
Details are as listed on Gordon's public professional profile. You can check any number with the professional body.
What Gordon works with
Everything Gordon lists, in their own terms.
- Stress, Anxiety
- LGBT
- Relationship issues
- Intimacy-related issues
- Depression
- Trauma and abuse
- Self esteem
- Career difficulties
- Coping with life changes
- Attachment issues
- BDSM, kink, and alternative sex culture
- Communication problems
- Guilt and shame
- Life purpose
- Men's issues
- Multicultural concerns
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Process addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)
- Sex addiction
- Sexual dysfunction
- Sexuality
Approaches Gordon lists
Listing an approach is not evidence of training in it. This directory copies what each counsellor names and does not check training records.
How Gordon works online
Imago Relationship Therapy offers tools to improve communication and understanding between partners, and to repair hurtful patterns. It can help with intimacy issues, attachment concerns and disputes about sexual needs or boundaries.
Solution-Focused Therapy emphasises small, practical steps and short-term goals. It is useful for managing stress, setting clear goals around sexual behaviour, or making changes to routines and coping strategies.
Finding the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will collaborate with each person to choose methods that match their needs, goals and preferences. That process often starts by listening to what matters most and trying one idea, then adapting as things change.
Session formats are not specified here, so please confirm current options before booking. Online work can make it easier to fit therapy into a busy life, for example by reducing travel time, allowing shorter check-ins during a lunch break, or avoiding the need for camera use when that feels difficult. Registered or accredited professionals and therapists often tailor practical arrangements to suit the client and the goals agreed in early meetings.
Questions and answers
What kinds of concerns does Gordon help with?
He supports people with sexual and intimacy issues, relationship communication, stress, anxiety, depression and coping with life changes.
How would you describe his therapeutic style?
Gordon uses a down-to-earth, non-judgemental style that listens first and then works on practical steps the client can try between sessions.
What is his professional background?
He has three years of professional experience working with sexual, relationship and mental health concerns in the United Kingdom.
What credentials and location are listed?
Gordon holds NCPS and practises in the United Kingdom.
Which languages are sessions offered in?
Sessions are offered in English.
Can people outside the UK work with him?
International clients are not currently accepted.
How does costing and payment work?
Costs vary by location and therapist availability and sessions use a subscription that can be cancelled at any time.
How do I begin a course of therapy?
Use the Start Therapy button, complete the short matching questionnaire, and schedule according to the therapist's availability.
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